Happy Happy 2021 party popper

While there’s nothing like a brand new calendar year to signal a fresh start, I want you to remember one crucial thing…

Life isn’t a race to push yourself through. 
There are NO prizes for exhaustion, lack of pleasure, and relationships that are just not fulfilling.

Yet, we live in a culture that glorifies and perpetuates the hustle and lack of genuine connection. If last year taught us anything, non-stop busyness and less than genuine connections aren’t sustainable, healthy, or joyful. And I’m sure by now you’ve realized that not taking time for yourself, your relationships, and your own pleasure makes things 1000 times worse.

On a side note…maybe you haven’t realized that just yet, but let me tell you, from where I stand in what I do, that has most definitely made it worse. So now you know ;) And now, knowing this, you can choose to align yourself and play with what is in your control. 

Every year we make New Year resolutions that will change our lives to be better humans. Here are a few resolutions that are the most popular. Do you see a few that you, yourself, have written down to change this year or in years past?

  • Exercise to get in shape/work out more.
  • “Diet” to lose weight.
  • Save more money/spend less money.
  • Eat healthier in general.
  • Something for self-care.
  • Get organized.
  • Learn a new skill or hobby.
  • Live life to the fullest.
  • Quit smoking.
  • Spend more time with family and friends.

According to a study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, only 46% of people who made New Year’s resolutions were successful. Still, fewer than 10 percent actually keep these for more than a few months. 

Wow! That’s not many people sticking to and implementing the change they so desperately wished to change. I want to share with you that I am no different. I am one of the 46% that has done that every year in the past. And was also one of the 10% that were successful in making some(not all) of the changes, more than a few months. 

So what changed for me? And helped me be successful in making the changes stick. 

My perception around what I wanted to change. And learning the specifics of the changes I wanted to make and what that actually looked like for me in particular. Perception and looking at the details of how these resolutions will affect you are essential. Not just setting the resolution. 
Let’s build on your knowledge and make this year about slowing down, learning, and more pleasure. 

Choose to respect yourself enough to stop running yourself ragged. Because that is part of your self-care that everyone needs in the new year.

Sending you enormous love, huge hugs, and excitement for an orgasmic year ahead~Dragonfly