Dragonfly

From an early age, I’ve been interested in the human body and how it operates. Running around naked outside and not understanding why I wasn’t allowed to have my shirt off when all the boys in the neighborhood could.
My fascination with our bodies and the stories of how and why we do what we do with them grew stronger as I grew up. That should have been a clue that I was destined for my current career.

In some way, I always knew I was intended to deeply connect and help others, as my indigenous granny often told me I had a gift that shined bright. And when you’re a child, you don’t usually know what that means or what it will relate to.

Being a kid is hard, and for me, there were some beautiful moments and some moments that I was screaming so loudly inside, “why me?”

Something was happening in a way I didn’t expect. As I opened up to them, I was also releasing and expanding. That’s when I realized what my granny had meant all those years back; I finally knew what path I was meant to take. I wanted to help people feel an authentic connection and help them bring pleasure to their lives. To do that, I had to walk a path of self-discovery, digging deeper into who I was programmed to be and who I wanted to be and giving myself the permission to walk into the unknown to truly enhance myself and become all I was meant to be.

My path wasn’t just forward but with many turns and curves along the way.

Whether it was limitations placed upon me or my own internalized self-imposed limitations of who I was or could be. Finding who I am has been quite a journey. Being honest with myself has been challenging. Holding the mirror up and digging into me, no longer lying to myself and shifting how I see myself. No blame, and taking control of me. No longer limiting who I can be because of limiting beliefs of who I am.

I heard self-love. It whispered very softly to me, but I never listened. After years of not listening, it became apparent that if I did not form a solid relationship with it, I might not be around even to hear the whispers.

There is a time when ignoring and pushing through won’t work anymore. Your life comes crashing down in an instant, seemingly out of nowhere. But it was not out of nowhere; I just got good at ignoring the signs or those whispers I was hearing. Until I was in a lot of pain, not able to dance and laughter seemed like a thing of the past.

Stress. Past undealt traumas. I was holding it all in.

My health wasn’t what I wanted it to be.

I was diagnosed with two autoimmune disorders. I was not me, a shell of who I once was.
The frustration and overwhelming lack of answers from the medical community led my mind to play tricks on me. Depression and anxiety were increasing, and I started to think it would be better if I weren’t taking up space on this planet.
Then, I almost did die, I had a stroke, and it was the most terrifying thing I had ever been through. Not just how I felt going through it all, but the thought of leaving my little girls, the idea of not seeing them and my loving husband, and what they would have all gone through was horrible. My heart and body were breaking even more.

Something had to change. E and I took matters into our own hands. We decided not to give up and dig into it to heal myself.
I quickly realized that what I had been told was healthy wasn’t exactly true, and it made me worse, adding to the stress of my body and the breakdown of my health.

Understanding how the traumas and obstacles unintentionally and intentionally put in place affected me was vital to my healing. I had to shift my mindset, and the programming running the show downloaded into me that I wasn’t entirely aware was even there. By practicing and being aware, I continued walking along my pleasure path.

Fast forward to a current time when I celebrate being in my body and everything it can do! Being able to move, paddleboard, dance, do yoga, feel aroused and know what it actually means to feel good in my body.

Honestly, it’s indescribable how this shift feels within me. To have a voice, trust my inner compass, and feel confident in asking even when the answer is no.

As I began to unfold into all of this and expand, I understood that it’s not just one thing that makes us the healthiest, most connected, pleasure-filled humans.
Understanding all of that also meant accepting all the parts of me. The emotional me, the silly me, the I care too much me, the needy me, the adventurous me, the sometimes bratty me, the loving me. And I could list many more because just like it’s not one thing that supports us, we are comprised of more than one thing as well.

My career started with private clients, educating them on topics that ranged from not-so-sexy to super-sexy. These are very different areas to learn, but all in support of authenticity, complete wholeness, and well-being. That then led me to offer experiences to pleasure-seeking humans at conventions such as Naughty N’awlins (the largest lifestyle convention in the US) and Fetish Con. Resorts and private hotel takeovers in Iceland, Hedonism II Resort, Caliente Resort, SDC Exclusive Events, and cruises such as Naughty Cruise and Bliss Cruise all designed for connection and pleasure! I was also the first educator featured on XR University and a contributor to the Nusa Sun Magazine, ASN Magazine, and The Sexy Lifestyle Podcast. This adventure has been such an honor to participate in and help seed more love and pleasure in the world.

My passion for guiding you to understand your own pleasure and expand your relationship intelligence has supported me in creating my own immersive educational PleasurePlayshops™ and Hearts & Hips Goddess Retreats™. These offerings allow women and couples to explore their needs, wants, and desires in safe, consensual, fun experiences worldwide. Being able to do this has made my body move and tingle in the most delicious ways.

Thank you for being here and learning more about me. I hope my story has given you some support in some way and you decide to choose yourself in the many magnificent ways possible.

Remember.
The choices you make, the programming you follow, the relationships you engage in, and the intimacy you feel is yours, what are you choosing?

In breath, love & hugs from my heart and hips to yours,

Dragonfly xx