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Touching for the Pleasure

Experiential Practice

Two rounds for each person.

First round-touching for my pleasure (this is for the giver pleasure).

  1. You will each touch one at a time, one direction, not communicating anything. 
  2. Set a timer for 30 second. 
  3. Once the timer is set, the person with the shortest hair will start touching.
  4. Touch your partner the way you want to touch them, to please yourself, not your partner. 
  5. Each of you journal your experience, not sharing.  
  6. Then switch. Allow the receiver to be the giver, and the giver to now be the receiver using the process above.
  7. Again, take a moment and each of you journal your experience, not sharing.  


Second round-touching for your pleasure (this is for the receivers pleasure).

  1. You will each touch one at a time, one direction, this time using the process below. 
  2. Set a timer for 60 seconds. 
  3. Once the timer is set, the person with the longest hair will begin with the process below.
    1. Get the consent first-this supports the consensual touch. 
      1. EX: “would it feel good to you if I touched you on your arms?”
    2. Negotiate where and how you want the touch-ask for what you specifically need for yourself. 
      1. EX: “I would really like it if you could use my back from 
  • my waist to my shoulders, instead of my arms.”
  1. Are there any BOUNDARIES of NO TOUCH zones?
    1. this may look like any part of your body for any reason. 
  2. Actively Guide your partner
    1. show your partner specifically how you would like to be touched, on their body with your hands. Note: You may want to get the touch down on yourself first, then transfer that over to your partner’s body to show them.
  3. Actively receive the touch
    1. allow yourself to be in the moment of just receiving the touch, not giving anything in return, unless it is to give feedback for the touch to be modified.
  1. Each of you journal your experience with the second round, not sharing.  
  2. Then switch. Allow the receiver to be the giver, and the giver to now be the receiver using the process above.
  3. Again, take a moment and each of you journal your experience.

Now it’s time to share your discoveries with your practice partner! Take turns sharing each of your experiences. 

Remember…make note of any Q’s that may arise, and submit them for the live Q&A. 

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